Friday, January 24, 2014

Going Unplugged

I’ve often been told that I am an old soul.  I am not even sure what that entirely means.  Is it a good or bad thing?  Does it mean that my soul is hundreds of years old?  Anyways, I think I am just old fashioned.  I like to have dinners at the table completely unplugged.  No tv, no cell phone, no iPad, no computer.  Just simply, being.  I don’t even mind if it’s silent and no one is talking.  I just like having some part of my day without all the distractions.  Just enjoying time with the bf.   

The man though doesn’t get where I am coming from with this.  He is 100% attached to his phone and iPad.  He’s always checking e-mails for work and I get it, the dude runs three businesses and  of course he needs to be on top of everything.  And I am not saying that I don’t enjoy electronics because I totally do but I also don’t want it to run my life and my relationship.  There needs to be line drawn. 

The first few months after I moved in we would sit at our lil table in the kitchen at least a couple times a week.  Now, I can’t remember the last time we weren’t sitting on the couch in front of the TV.  Granted Dragon, our pup kind of took over that section of the kitchen because of her large kennel and our lack of space for it.  We had to move the table and it is not in a very convenient location.  I don’t like it one bit. 

While we were on the cruise it was great because we weren't able to use phone or internet, unless we wanted to shell out some cash money, which I did not.  It was so nice not to have my phone attached to my hip.  We weren't worried about what celeb was getting arrested or what someone was eating that they just had to post on Instagram.  Guilty as charged of this.  We were living in the moment and sometimes I forget to do that. 

So the other night I was thinking about it and suggested to the bf what if we have an unplugged bed time.  I mean who doesn’t love pillow talk?  For now, this could be our time to talk about the day, our dreams, goof off and just be together without distractions.  I think it’s healthy for relationships.  

The hard part in this whole thing is getting Philly on board.  I don’t want to say that he doesn’t respect the idea because he does but I don’t think he takes the idea seriously either.  Maybe it’s the old soul in me that just can’t keep up with the times.  But then again it could just be my need to feel close and to stay connected in my relationship. 

Do you have an unplugged time in your relationship?  How has it helped yours if you do?  I need some convincing points to win the bf’s heart on going uplugged.  

I guess I kind of went deep for a friday morning but I just couldn't resist.  


  1. When my best friend and I tried dating it was long distance, so being unplugged was hard. But what we did was try not to text all the time so when we did skype we had things to talk about. And while we were skyping we made sure there was no tv on, our phones were not near us, and the attention was only to talking. Idk if that is "unplugged" but it was the closets we cold be! It is hard to not be distracted!!

    xo. Kailagh

  2. I totally understand where you are coming from and my husband is a lot like your boyfriend in that he doesn't see spending time on his phone *while* talking to me as being at all detrimental. I think the pillow talk idea is a good one :) PS: Try to make sure your bf never gets the game "Clash of Clans" because we have had significantly more screen-time problems since that was downloaded (haha). Good luck!!!

  3. love, love, love this! i do the same thing. no electronics in the bed. but i think i also want to eat at our dining room table unplugged more too.

  4. My boyfriend and I shared a New Years resolution of not spending all night every night on our phones. We're both guilty of slipping up since the 1st but he is worse than me, especially with sports. He's watching one game on tv, another on his phone, constantly refreshing pages to see scores, etc. It's a big problem so I hope some of your readers give you some suggestions that I can steal too!

  5. I think this is a GREAT idea! We don't have unplugged time and it's something that I feel guilty about. I'm awful at just being in the moment!

  6. I've wanted to get around to this more too! I find that when I take vacations I have no troubles being unplugged, just like you. I enjoy not dragging my phone everywhere. I enjoy not having to check my bloglovin feed. No facebook. No twitter. Just quality time. Now when I'm at home its so hard. I really need to make more of an effort with my husband in that area.

  7. Unless I have work to do, our general rule is to "unplug" at 8:30- 9:00 and just enjoy our time together. It honestly makes such a difference in our relationship and I'm so glad we did it.

  8. If you convince him, be sure to share your secrets! I can't get my boyfriend to unplug for anything! I can go whole days without even knowing where my phone is, but his is basically an arm extension. I try and get him to go for unplugged date nights, but he doesn't go for it at all.

  9. I've wanted to do this for awhile. We are so addicted to our electronics in this house. Seriously, sometimes it's overwhelming and seems like all the devices are taking over!