What I will say is someone I know very close to me is making
the biggest mistake of their lives and they are in complete denial over the
entire situation. Every person on the
outside sees it except the person. I’m
torn between just sucking it up and supporting them or just coming out and
saying exactly how I feel. But that
second option could completely ruin our entire relationship but at the same
time I feel wrong just sitting back and doing nothing. I don’t want it to be about me and I feel
like that’s how it comes across but it’s not.
This person means so much to me and I know that it really is all being
rushed and they aren’t taking time to see the entire picture. Do I just sit back and just let it all
happen? I can foresee me being an
emotional basket case by supporting this and just making the entire situation
worse.
I'm torn. I'm torn because I don't know what the right and the wrong thing are here. I'm torn because I don't want to hurt this person and I'm torn because I don't want to sit back and do nothing. I'm being pulled in every which direction and I can't make out my jumbled thoughts with a clear mind.
My family has been through a lot and we are constantly
tested. No matter what though, we get
through it and become stronger as a family.
I feel as though my only option is to be there for this person because
in the long run I might just regret not being there for them. And as much as I just want to scream at the
top of my lungs and tell them “YOU ARE GOING TO RUIN YOUR LIFE,” it’s not my life
to ruin and it’s not my mistake to make. This person means a lot to me and I hope that
they know all I want is nothing but the best and happiness for them. I know
this is all vague and I’m really just trying to get my thoughts out because it’s
been eating me alive.
To end this whole vague and unclear rant, where you have no
idea what the hell I’m talking about, I’m thankful for having such a great
support system. I’m thankful for my
amazing boyfriend who constantly listens to me sob and punch the air to get my
frustrations out, for my friends both old and new who let me vent, give me some
great advice and make me laugh, I’m thankful for my family and no
matter what we will be stronger than ever and lastly I'm thankful for my pups for always knowing when I need a good snuggle. It
is these people that help keep me going when life gets hard and
complicated. I love each and every one of you.
In a situation like this, the only thing I can say is that you have to decide what's more important in the long run: a) remaining friends, but having to watch them go through the future pain that is sure to occur and possibly be alienated from her anyways, or b) speak your peace politely and lovingly and pray that she won't be too offended and will understand, even if she stands by what she wants to do. It's a tough one. I hope you find some peace, soon.
ReplyDeleteI just love love love you muffin! It's going to be okay, and you know I'm here for you whichever way you go. Most importantly is that this whole thing will be as over as it can be pretty soon, and you can move on from feeling torn. I know there are more obstacles likely to come, but at least this part will be over either way!! BIG HUGS!
ReplyDeleteI think if you approach it the right way and make it clear that you're voicing your opinions out of love for that person, then you can't go wrong. You might be doing them a disservice as a friend to not say anything and you don't want to look back at this and say, "What if I had said something?"
ReplyDeletenot sure there is a right or easy answer for you...but i feel like at the end of the day you need to talk to this person and share your concerns, but make sure they know it is out of love
ReplyDeleteHuge hugs girl. I know there's no real "right" answer to your situation here, and that sucks :( It'd sure be easier if there was a clear cut answer. Would a walk or some juju help?
ReplyDeleteSending some positive vibes your way.... It's so hard to know what to do in these situations, so I hope something seems clear soon! =\
ReplyDeleteWell you just have to decide if you can live with yourself if you don't say anything. That is the best way to figure out what to do
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